Monday, October 31, 2011

A very quiet Halloween


I've celebrated a lot of Halloween nights - but tonight might be one of the quietest on record!! Maybe we had 4 or 5 groups come to the door - I bought way too much candy too. Fortunately it's the kind I hate, so I guess I will pass it on to my students in the form of rewards and bribes!! And there just hasn't been much noise. And no rowdy teens coming to the door and saying, "Don't you teach at Clifton!?"

Also, I didn't even open one box of Halloween decor - and we have no pumpkins on our porch. We are still a construction zone, so I saw no point in adding to the chaos!


As a child, Halloween was a big deal. At least to us kids. The costumes certainly were not a big deal. Girls were gypsies and boys were hobos. It was just the idea of having all those treats at our disposal - and the general excitement and fun.

Hope your Halloween night was just what you wanted it to be! I got some laundry done, bills paid, and a blog posted!

Saturday, October 29, 2011

The Wedding Weekend


It was fun to have Hannah here - even briefly. We headed out Saturday a.m. for the temple and Melanie's wedding. It was a beautiful fall day!! Hannah especially relished that - since Robbie told her that it was snowing in D.C.

There was a large group inside and outside the temple - I'm sure Jacob and Melanie felt loved!!


It was fun for Hannah to see lots of old friends at the reception - especially Jen Thorp. (But I called her Jenny!!)


And it was fun to congratulate Catherine and Peyton on their engagement!!


Hannah spent time with Harry and Dawn - discussing Young Women stuff with Dawn, since Hannah has a new calling in Young Women. And Noah came by after the reception for a visit and some hot chocolate. It may seem warm to Hannah, but some of us felt chilly!!

We are indeed looking forward to visiting at Christmas!!

Friday, October 28, 2011

Halloween Happenings in Monrovia!!


It was the Halloween celebration at Clifton today - I broke down and wore a Halloween tee shirt, but I couldn't find my pumpkin earrings!! I may have tossed them in a fit of organization last year!! And then it was the Ward Halloween Party tonight. Hannah got in at around 2 and got to Monrovia around 5 or so. Her old roomie and friend Katie brought her out here - thanks Katie!! I thought she'd have jet-lag, but she wanted to go to the ward party, so we went. She enjoyed seeing ward members and eating the excellent taco dinner that was provided. Sure beats the corn dogs of yesteryear that used to be standard ward Halloween party fare!!

Harry W. is not pouting - this is his Ninja face! He and Porter got the Super Hero Award in the costume contest!!


Robbie Smith and his girlfriend got the Best Couple Award. I suspect she was supposed to a vampire or some other Gothic character, but I thought she looked like Scarlett O'Hara in her widows' weeds!! Loved it!


Katie C. has been at her folks for a couple of weeks while her husband was out of town, and I said, "I'll bet the Cornwalls will do something with Katie and her kids!" And they did - they were the Incredibles - very cool!!
And Hannah loved catching up with Katie. (This must be Katie Night!!)


Dawn started making Eve's paper doll costume around 4 this afternoon - isn't it cute?? And Kat and Tyler are with her - they got the Cute Couple Award - 1-fish, 2-fish, red-fish, blue-fish - very clever!!


Miss Isla enjoyed the trappings, and had a cute hat to go with her clown costume - but she refused to wear it! She even refused to stand in the photo!! Oh well, everyone had a great time - and that's what it's all about anyway!!

(Dad is still at work - what's new?)

Wednesday, October 26, 2011

A note to you all:


Harry and Dawn asked me to have an obituary printed for Jonah. I got frustrated with the Star News, so ended up going with the LA Times. It was in the Times today - but you can also access it online. You go to LATimes.com and click on obituaries. You can also click on the Guestbook and there is a place to send messages to Harry and Dawn - just in case you were interested.


Meanwhile, life goes on - most of the out of town guests have gone. Marjorie is here for another week or so. Friends and family continue to express their love and concern.

And if we had a little cake, we'd sing Happy Birthday!

(Harry has expressed his desire to post something on the blog - I told him to take his time - any time he's up to it, we'll be glad to read it!)

Tuesday, October 25, 2011

Big brothers and little brothers - and other late night ruminations


Dawn's family started arriving last week. B.J. - also called Sean - is Dawn's younger brother. Porter seems to have a special relationship with him, and it's sweet to behold.

B.J. actually left this a.m. to go back to Texas, but the other family members who were still here went to Santa Anita for the morning workouts and breakfast at Clocker's Corner. The children stayed home from school today, and after Santa Anita, they all headed off to Disneyland!! It was gray and cloudy all day - we are grateful we didn't have that yesterday. But it's perfect Disneyland weather!! (And I wanted a reason to post this sweet picture!)

I took the day off too - I had plenty to do, but I certainly didn't do all of it. Didn't even do most of it! I found that after two weeks of non-stop needing to do things, I was somewhat adrift. For the first time since Jonah's birth, there was time to reflect on his short little life. I have not really reflected much before now - if there was time to do it, I usually fell asleep!

I need to process all that has occurred, and I need to sort out what kind of impact it will have. Some of that impact will just happen. Some of it will be directed by my thoughts and intentions. I mostly find myself thinking about the events - they keep running through my mind. I love looking at the photos, re-reading the blog posts I have written and those others have written. I simply have not ever had such a life-changing experience before. I thought that getting married, having children, finishing school, moving to new locations - these were "life-changing." Weren't they?

But they were and are ongoing events. This little life has had an ending - at least an ending here on earth. And as I have said before, I am not the same person I was before. I don't especially want to be the same person. I want to be more aware, more sensitive, more intuitive, more connected. More like the kind of person who will be there to greet Jonah. More like the kind of person who will always keep his memory significant in my life. More like the kind of person Jonah was.

Happy 7th to Calvin!


I haven't seen Calvin since "Cousin Camp" this summer!! And I miss him! He's a wonderful little boy - who's getting to be quite a big boy - maybe I can't call him little anymore!!

He sure was a cute little guy when he was younger!! And I guess I shouldn't be calling him cute anymore - maybe it's time for handsome!!


We love you Calvo and wish you a happy, happy day!!

Monday, October 24, 2011

Good-bye baby Jonah



Today we said our final good-byes to Baby Jonah. The day dawned gray and overcast - reflective of our mood. But the sun peeked through and gave us just enough light to feel good about the day. The church building was awash with flowers, photos, and food. And friends and family too. The turnout was inspiring - to know that such a small boy, who only stayed for a few days, could touch so many hearts was indeed balm to our sorrowing hearts. Harry was especially touched that so many from his police department came to pay their respects. They were also touched when the nurses from Methodist arrived. These women told me how much they appreciated Dawn and Harry's willingness to share Jonah with them.

Brooke and Amy especially took charge of displays in the foyers and arranging all the lovely flowers that had arrived. They included Ella's quilt and the quilt from the Linus project.

The little lamb will be a stand in for Jonah when we take group photos of the grandchildren. And the sweet romper outfit was made by Sue Cornwall. I crocheted the little hat almost as an afterthought. Since he wore it a few times, I'm certainly glad I did! He was wrapped in the afghan I crocheted for him, and I am happy when I think that my love literally surrounded him on his final journey.


The Young Women leaders and girls made this beautiful quilt. It will be a treasure throughout the coming years.


We spent yesterday going through some of the many photos Harry has taken and put them together in frames and collages. It was a labor of love.


When I peeked into the chapel to take photos of the flowers, Ara and her mom were getting in some last-minute practicing. They both did a lovely job and added a special touch to the service. A big thank you to Roseann and Sue for the music - conducting and playing the organ.


Paula and Rebecca sent the plant and the stone which says "In our arms for only a short time. In our hearts forever."


The Relief Society did their usual wonderful job on the luncheon.


Mom, Donna, and Mary as we gathered for the family visitation before the service.


Harry and Dawn greeted friends and family. The flow of guests was steady - a tribute to the love many have for Harry and Dawn and our family.


I kept a lot of extra programs and will try to send them off to those who would like one - they were lovely - a tribute to Harry and Dawn's thoughtful attention to every detail.


Bill and Helen greeting each other.


Jim McKendrick made the lovely walnut casket - it was so tiny - the paintings of the Savior were gifts from Dawn's brother and nephew.


Jim also made the wagon. Harry placed the casket in the wagon, and Isla rode in it too. Eve pulled it into the chapel and Harry and Porter walked behind it. Harry and Dawn followed as they came into the chapel down the south aisle. When the service was over, they went up the north aisle to go out. Someone commented, "I could keep the tears at bay until I saw the wagon!" It was a sweet procession.


Dawn - doing what she does so well - fixing Eve's hair!


It was wonderful to see Erika and Scott, who made special trips to be here. Lest you think that your presence at a funeral goes unnoticed, I am here to say that it is noticed!! And appreciated.

The service itself was beautiful. The opening song featured the Terrill family anthem, "Because I Have Been Given Much," Pres. Cornwall spoke on the plan of happiness. The Primary children sang "I Am A Child of God" and Ara played a flute descant. They also sang "I Feel My Savior's Love." It was sweet when little Scarlett Ciesla ran up to the stand to join in. Harry spoke about the lessons that Jonah had taught their family. We hope to have a transcript of his remarks soon. A trio of Dawn's friends sang the Dixie Chicks song "Lullaby" and it was beautiful. Then Bishop Stevenson gave remarks, and the closing song was "Families Can Be Together Forever." The opening and closing prayers were given by Dawn's older brother Joe and her nephew Travis.


At the graveside, Harry dedicated the grave. His voice was strong and clear - the Lord truly sustained all of us today - and we are so grateful for that tender mercy.


There were also white doves - the children were allowed to release them - they flew off, circled, and then headed to their home in Hacienda Heights. It was a nice touch - and the children loved it.


Harry, Dawn and their children acquitted themselves so well today - Dad and I are so proud of their enduring faith and demeanor - they are a credit to us all. Jonah would have approved, I am sure.


One of the the special nurses from Methodist Hospital.


Heading off to Live Oak.


We were so pleased that Anne and Wayne were in town and were able to attend. Cheryl, Gilbert's daughter, also came.


Marjorie, her sister Annette, and Annette's daughter Katie. So good to see them again.

Rebecca, Marina, and Paula - neighbors and friends - what good neighbors they have been and continue to be.


Heather, Bruce, Bonny, and Frances.


Donna, Isla, Ara, Annika, Ella - I don't think I got all of the children who were present - they were pretty much running around by the time we got back to the church!


Did manage a family shot of Bonny and Bruce's family - and Ember scooted in too!


Harry and Scott - a formidable duo!!


I feel bad that the only shots of Greg and Noah are these - they were busy helping pretty much the whole time!! We were glad to have them there with us!


And I did remember to include myself - here with Miss Isla - who did a great job today - as a not-quite-two-year-old, these last couple of weeks have been a bit of a mystery to her - and she is doing a great job of adapting!! She sat with me at the funeral through most of Pres. Cornwall's talk. Then I took her to the nursery. I went for her again during the closing song, so she could ride in the wagon as we left the chapel. She gets the prize today, in addition to all the Tic Tacs I plied her with!!

I'm sure it will be a while before I sort through the various feelings and emotions that have taken over my life these last weeks. This experience is so new to me - one I didn't think I was prepared for. But I have just gone day to day - sometimes hour to hour even - and the Lord has blessed and sustained me. I have blogged, written in my journal, talked to anyone who would listen - but it's still not quite settled in my mind. Maybe it never will be. I will never be the same person again - what I want to be is the person who can be there to greet Jonah when we are once again reunited!

Sunday, October 23, 2011

"The Bustle in a House"


There is a poem by Emily Dickinson that says,

"The bustle in a house
the morning after death
is solemnest of industries
enacted upon Earth -

The sweeping up the heart
and putting love away,
we shall not want to use again
until eternity."

I'm not sure it all applies here, but after Jonah's passing, after our goodbyes, after the arrival of the Hospice nurse, and after the arrival of the representative from Zook, there was a kind of "bustle" as we "put things to right."

Sean and Emily enjoying the show!

The equipment was gathered up, awaiting the Vitas worker who picked them up. Some things were tossed in the trash, some things were gathered up for the memory box, some things were just put back where they belonged.

Whitney, Luke, Emily and Katie

The next day Harry assembled Porter's new desk, and Dawn was busy sorting toys and books and finding new homes for the items that were displaced from the old toy cupboard. I can identify with sorting and cleaning to take your mind off things and to give you a sense of order and control.

Harry William and Uncle Joe!

The last few days have been spent making funeral preparations. The service is tomorrow. Many of Dawn's family are here - and what a blessing that is. We have enjoyed visiting, helping with the children, eating - the food keeps coming - that's one part I will really miss!! And for some of us, it's been a time to get to know members of Dawn's family that we've only heard about until now! And to re-acquaint ourselves with the others.

Marjorie, Dawn, Annette, and Julie

Eve had a competition - Harry took her and she felt good about her performance.


Other family members - like Erika and Frances - have arrived.


We aren't really "putting love away" because much love is being expressed, but we are sharing memories of Jonah, and storing up these memories to comfort us in the days ahead. And we are waiting for eternity and planning for being with Jonah once more.

The ever-expressive Miss Isla, letting us know what she thinks!

Once again, our heartfelt thanks to all who are so supportive - every expression of love sustains and uplifts us all.